A How-To Guide
I’ve written about the importance of Getting Healthy here and here. You can try 8000 food plans and workouts and lose all the weight you want. You might even look like Jesus handcrafted your body with God’s sign off. But if you don’t love yourself, none of that really matters.
We all know people who don’t love themselves for one reason or another. It might even you. No matter the reason, it all comes from a hurting place. And unfortunately, it can (and often does) affect every aspect of your life…including your ability to lose weight. These individual life experiences affect that ability in different ways: eating disorders, fear of failure (resulting in shame), and fear of succeeding (resulting in unwarranted attention). Others may become negative, attacky people who make it hard for anyone around them to reach their goals. Whatever you do, where ever you do it, they’ll find something negative to say. You might even be this person and UOENO!
I’m not a Psychologist so I can’t help with moving past the pain, BUT I can help with setting yourself up for to meet your goals. This series uses three life lessons that I’ve found useful in completing just about any goal with focus on weight loss, nutrition, fitness, and overall well being:
Stay out of other people’s lives. Not much has changed about human interaction. What has changed is how we’re able to communicate with each other. And for some reason, a lot of people feel that they are entitled to access and authority over others’ lives. This ranges from commenting on others’ food choices to body shaming to spitting all over other people’s goals.
Confront negative people. We all have a variety of relationships: friends, family, coworkers, significant others, etc. Unfortunately, any one of those relationships can be a source of pain in your life. Sometimes their comments come from a place of love (often combined with a lack of education). But other times, they can be purposely malicious. Some relationships can’t be avoided. And sometimes, it’s hard to know when to let go.
Focus on yourself. It’s the purpose of staying out of other people’s lives and confronting (or eliminating) people who won’t stay out of yours. When you focus on yourself, you’re able to figure out what you need and want. You’re using all that good energy to make YOU better! Isn’t that the point?!!! 🙂
Now, if you’re thinking, “What does this have to do with the price of tea in China or at least my belly fat?” then I lost you somewhere along the way. I’m trying to help you get your mind right so you can get your body right!
Since it is the source of most weight loss arguments, I’m going to start with something near and dear to my own heart: STAY OUT OF OTHER PEOPLE’S REFRIGERATORS! STAY OUT!
But before I do, what is keeping you from reaching your goals?