As I said in this post, “Getting Healthy” is all about getting mentally healthy. All the improved eating habits and exercising in the world won’t make you happy if you haven’t learned to love yourself. YOUR. WHOLE. ENTIRE. SELF. Sure we all have something about ourselves that we’d like to change but that shouldn’t dictate how we feel about ourselves overall. I know I’m conceited dennamug but I have things I don’t love about myself like:
- My back fat
- My belly fat
- My thigh and butt cellulite
But those three things don’t outweigh everything I do love about myself like:
- My face
- My hair
- My figure/body shape
- My skin
- My complexion
- My overall amazingness (outside of my physical features)
I made a point to list physical features because that’s what seems to keep people from loving themselves most. Loving yourself isn’t about being perfect, it’s about accepting yourself. For example, I love my smile. I need braces and the left side is higher than the right side. But you know what? This smile is engaging and it’s something that makes me unique! My smile brings all the boys to the yard as much as my booty does. It’s not “perfect” but it’s mine!
Now let’s talk about something I hate. BODY-SHAMING. What is it? Basically, it’s engaging in negative statements and attitudes about another person because of their weight or size. Most people think of fat-shaming but it can go in any and every direction (I’ll get into that some other day).
Unfortunately, that definition excludes what I’m going to call “self-shaming” (because I can’t find another term for it). I define “self-shaming” as expressing negative statements and a negative attitude about YOURSELF because of YOUR weight or size. Comments like these are fall under “self-shaming”:
- “Ugh, I’m so fat!”
- “I hate my body!”
- “I’ll never look like (insert another person)!”
- “I’m too big to be attractive!”
I pretty sure a lot of people have at least said the first one. I know I said it before. I had to catch myself. Yes, I was big but so? Either do something about it or accept it. I had to remind myself that putting myself down wasn’t going to help and I (eventually) did do something about it!
Did you read that? You should! Joyce was speaking what I was trying to say! If you keep thinking negatively about yourself, you’re going to be negative. The more negative you are, the less the positive can get through. That’s no way to live! Like I said, we all have something we’d like to change. After losing 38 pounds, I still have belly fat, back fat, and some cellulite. BUT it’s no where near as much as it was. Instead, of focusing on the negative, try focusing on the positive…the things you do like about yourself!
Getting Healthy Tip: The Morning Mirror is based on tip #1 (Like Yourself Naked) in this Fitness Magazine article. Every morning, stand in front of a full-length mirror completely naked. Take a good look at yourself and point out at least ONE thing you love about yourself. It can even be something non-physical (but shoot for something physical). Do this every morning and you’ll begin to see a difference…not only in your body but how you feel about yourself overall!
And if you need more positive inspiration, visit my Thick. Fine. Healthy. Happy Pinterest Board where I post quotes, photos and articles/blog posts related to loving yourself. Note: some are not related to fitness but are helpful nontheless 🙂